No Right Time (#105)
There is simply no perfect time in life to do the things you want to do. Whether that’s starting a new career, launching a new product, getting married, having a kid or taking that trip you always wanted to go on.
My wife and I made 2017 the time to do the latter and our family just returned from an amazing 3-week mini sabbatical in Australia. It was a trip I had wanted to take for years but the timing was never “right.” So, we just decided to do it anyway. In the end, the timing was perfect as I needed the break to recharge for 2018 after a brutal travel schedule this fall and to finish my next book.
In many ways, I decided to live 2017 as if it was the last year of my life. That choice led to an incredibly fulfilling year that included publishing my first book , taking an epic trip to the Super Bowl with my son and father-in-law and going on two Bucket List family vacations.
I plan to continue this mindset in 2018 without apology or explanation.
Performance guru, Tim Ferriss, popularized the concept of the “deferred life plan,” in his book, The Four-Hour Work Week. As he explains it, the deferred life plan is when people put off what they really want to do for what is expected of them. They tend to think that “later” or “when they retire” is when they will really start enjoying life.
In reality, none of us know how much time we have left on this earth. As we heard all too often in tragic stories from last year, the problem with deferring life plans is that there’s a chance our time will be up well before we think it will be.
This week, a lot of people are making new year’s “resolutions,” many of which are unlikely to last through the month or quarter. Personally, I don’t believe in resolutions. That said, I do think the beginning of the year is a great time to recalibrate and recommit.
2018 is as good a time as any to make the things happen in your life that you have been putting off. Here are some ideas to make it your best year yet:
- Skip the resolutions. After you’ve gained clarity on your core values, establish long-term and short-term goals. The Whole Life Dashboard is a great tool to help you in this process.
- Stop making the excuse of “it’s not a good time” to yourself and others. The perfect time will never come.
- Say yes to great opportunities that come your way. And if it’s not a “hell yes,” then say no to it.
- If it’s important to you, make it happen. If it’s not, give it up.
- Pick something that’s been on your long-term goal list and commit to getting it done in 2018 – even if you don’t know the “how.”
- Create accountability for your goals through a buddy, a journal (self-accountability) or by making your goals public. For the first time ever, I’m doing this with my team.
Despite what people might tell you or what you might believe, 2018 is a great time to get a new job/new career that you will love, take a risk outside your comfort zone, visit that Bucket List place, have a kid, face a fear, take a risk, or whatever else you might have been deferring for the “right time.”
Quote of The Week
“Do not wait: the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.”